Wit's End

That's where I am. Sometimes it feels like I'm standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon and I'm just waiting for that certain someone to push. I was hoping that at least half of my spawn would walk the straight and narrow path. My beautiful and intelligent daughter is starting to rebel and I'm not liking it. I had to ground her a couple of weeks ago for lying. She said she was going to the library and to then hang out with her friends. OK, that's not a problem. Since she's only 15 the rule is that she needs to be home by dark and if she needs a ride to call. Long story short, she wasn't where she was supposed to be, blatantly lied about it and got busted. So I grounded her for a week. She's a terrible liar, unlike her brother. So the minute she's ungrounded she's back "at the library" with her friends. Now I'm not stupid although both my kids think I am. So when J went to pick her up one night she asked if he could take this boy home that she was hanging out with. Ding ding ding! It pisses J off when the kids do this. Where are these kids parents? I go to bed early on Wednesday night because I have to get up at 2:30 and go to work and I didn't talk to J until the next day. He said that she pulled the "can you take my friend home" trick again and when they got in the car the cigarette smoke smell was terrible. So I let her have it over the weekend. She admitted she was smoking. As an ex smoker I can tell who smokes and who doesn't. And she admitted that this guy she's been hanging out with is her "boyfriend". Ummmm, no he's not girlie. If I've never met him, he's not your boyfriend. Then she proceeds to tell me he lives with his foster parents. Another red light. I asked her why he was living with foster parents and her answer was " I don't know". I told her that she better find out the facts before jumping into anything she might regret. I don't have anything against fostering but I need to know why. Bottom line is I told her she needs to find out exactly what and why before I let her continue to see this boy. And I need to meet him. So she said that she was going to invite him over here so we could meet him. We'll see what happens.
We did some winterizing yesterday. Sprayed and cleaned all the windows and screens, pulled all the dead flowers out and planted my spring bulbs, put away the patio furniture and put the Halloween decorations in storage. I can't quite unhook the propane yet and put the grill to sleep. I'll probably be grilling when it's 10 below. I can't help myself. I can't believe that Thanksgiving is 4 weeks away and Christmas is right behind it. I start all early mornings this week so that means getting up at 4:30 every day until Christmas. I see utter exhaustion in my future. Who wants to push?